How Important Is Self Love For Happiness
Do you think you could love others truly without loving yourself first? Well most people think putting themselves first in their life is a sin. So they tend to follow other versions of life. The result is they become so frustrated with their life. Only those who master the art of self love know how important it's for life and to build strong relations. Let's check how important self love for happiness and relations.
Why do opinions and judgements of others affect us so easily? Because we have been following this habit since childhood. To be frank a child shows more courage to express his true feelings than an adult. But as we grow up the fear of what others think becomes stronger and stronger. This fear grows from the thought of to get attention and love from others we should follow their opinion. This thought, this belief is not only wrong but also very destructive in nature.
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First of all you can’t find two people with the same character in the whole world. Each person has their own unique personality, their own likes and dislikes, their own unique desires. Just think how boring our world would be if everyone had the same perspective about life. It’s the diversity that makes this world beautiful and interesting. Yet we tend to follow the crowd.
The most important person in your life is nobody but yourself. If you know your value so clearly then even if the whole world stands against you it won’t touch you. At the same time if you don’t value yourself then no matter how many people try to convince you value you won’t feel that. It’s all about how you interpret events and situations and your interpretations are hugely influenced by how much you love yourself. literally without valuing yourself without loving yourself it’s just impossible to get a satisfying life.
When you start to love yourself you become emotionally so strong. You start to realize that without your consent nobody can hurt you with their opinion of judgement. When you reach that level you could find happiness and peace within yourself. In other words you need no second person to be happy. You no longer depend too much on others for happiness. You won't gain the strong urge for getting attention and nice words from others. Because you know your values, you know your importance more than anyone else in the world.
Importance of self love in building strong relations
We can’t live without human connections. But too much dependency always causes problems in relations. That’s why detachment is very important in relationships. One who knows how to value and love himself never keeps too much attachment to others. It doesn’t mean he doesn't value others. It means he doesn't always need support and nice words from others to be happy. He is happy with himself. Anyone who meets such a person automatically gets a positive vibe from him. So his relations become stronger and more meaningful.
Let’s examine what happens when you keep too much emotional attachment to your relations. Even your close family members can’t always treat you like special, can’t always say nice words. If you have a habit of becoming frustrated and sad when you don’t get attention it will definitely create a lot of problems in your relations.
The good values, productive habits, positive beliefs, skills and talents you have always manage to bring so much happiness in your life. Nobody can take these values from you. But only one who knows himself deeply has this awareness. Such a person also has the awareness that helping others to realize their own importance and beauty of being themselves is the gift he can give. Who doesn't want to be with such a person. That’s the beauty of self love.