Why Detachment Is True Love
What makes a mother-child relation so special? For a mother her child is a part of her soul. Her love for the child is truly unconditional. A mother never counts how much she gives for her child. Like the Sun provides light for Earth, a mother always loves her child. True love never depends on situations or things. Attachment always controls, always brings pain. That’s why detachment is the true form of love.
To be frank, for many people detachment means being cold. Not understanding the feelings of others, not caring others or being selfish. Because of this misunderstanding, they think if they feel any negative feelings such as stress, worry or disappointment all people who love them should worry along with them. They believe so because they are attached to their relatives and loved ones. They believe those who love them truly should worry for them when they face any adversity.
See, when you face a problem do you want someone who brings a solution or who fears along with you? What’s the point in getting one more person to worry, complain or stress when facing a problem? It’s an absolute waste of time. When you face a problem you need a person who can encourage you, give you hope and have the capacity to bring the right solution for you. Because that’s what someone who truly loves you will do.
True love never controls. True love never set rules. True love never stops anyone from being their unique character. To reach that level your mind should be detached from the mind of everyone you love. When you reach that state you can remain calm even when your loved one faces a disturbed mind. As you remain calm, you could be able to give encouragement, hope and the right solution for your loved one.
Ask yourself how stupid is the idea of - if you love me, you should obey all my rules. That kind of thinking only comes from meaningless attachment. That’s not true love. Genuine love and loyalty, built by allowing someone to be their best version. When you only hope for the continuous growth of your loved ones all your actions and behaviors are backed up by strong positive vibes. Nobody in the whole world can ignore such a genuine expression of love. Nobody wants to walk away from such a person.
It’s not giving a luxurious gift that counts as a true expression of love. Material things can make someone’s life more comfortable. But to have someone who always gives them hope, encouragement and inspiration give them the true joy of life.
When you find joy in loving someone without expecting anything in return you would enjoy the most joyful feeling in the world. You don’t have to compromise your time or hard earned money for nothing. To be precise emotional support is the foundation of all strong relations. That’s exactly you want to give. When you do this without expecting anything in return you are actually strengthening your relationship again.
Just think about how beautiful your relationship becomes when you are detached from another's mind. Just don't waste the rest of your life by being emotionally attached to relations. Be a giver, give emotional support in your relations without expecting anything in return. Because detachment is the true love, always has been and always will.